Sunday, July 25, 2010

Another Family Reunion

Well I had all four of my sons and all six of my grandchildren in the same place this weekend for another reunion of my ex-husband's family. Unfortunately when a divorce occurs it changes relationships with your former in-laws and they are sometimes laughingly called "outlaws." In-laws that you are no longer related to because of the divorce. But what if you really want to continue your relationship with some of them although you are now an ex sister-in-law or ex aunt or uncle? It's tricky especially if you aren't comfortable being around your former spouse. His or her family sometimes has to choose who to support or accept. So it is awkward, but it can be done. It also depends on distances and where you reside if you ever see any ex family members after a divorce.


Recently I've gotten reacquainted with some of my ex nieces and nephews through facebook. Many weren't even born when I divorced their uncle. I'm trying to make up for the lost years where we've never interacted. Now I have also a new daughter-in-law Rachel (wife of Jeff) and a new grandchild Lorien to introduce to two of my sons who rarely come to Utah. Family relationships are COMPLEX. (Above are photos of my immediate family except for Daniel's wife Tina who was busy with her husband hosting us all. I didn't get her photo in this slide show.)

7 comments:

Jo, a retired teacher said...

You are right, families can get very complex. How fun for you, though, to have all four boys together for a time. Your pictures are precious.

alicia said...

Great pictures!!! Looks like you had a great time :)

Rambling Woods said...

Love the family slide show. I would have liked to stay in contact with some of my exs relatives, but they wrote me off 30 years ago..sad...but then I wouldn't want to be in contact with him so it is for the best....

Linda said...

Lin, this is totally exciting. I am so happy for you. I must say, they're all good looking young men.

SandyCarlson said...

I think where love remains, we must remain--and we can get through the awkwardness in the name of that love. tough work, though. I like you pictures, Lin.

Kay said...

It's really nice that you're trying to keep up a relationship with the "outlaws" because they are still your sons' relatives.

Mare said...

The saying, Blood is thicker than water is so true! You will always have your children as the goodness that came out of that marriage/divorce.