My friend who is the same
age as me is worried that…after I’m gone, no one will remember me. It’s really quite a concern to her, which is amazing
because she is so good at making friends and a difference in the lives of
everyone she meets. Just waiting in line to checkout is an opportunity for this
friend to get acquainted and take an interest in individuals near her by
starting up a conversation. She is a shining example to me of a loving person
who does make a difference even in strangers’ lives that she touches. Whether
it is a brief but sincere compliment given unexpectedly or a question, she is
always on the outlook for opportunities to build another’s self esteem and
worth. Will she be missed when she’s gone? Definitely! She’s a snowbird and I always miss her companionship
during the summer months. (Photos on right- my grandmother Alda Johnson who died in 1967 and her sister my great aunt Dora-below who died in the 1951. They both were important influences in my childhood and are not forgotten.)
Even those who aren’t outgoing and influential in others lives will
be missed by those who knew them: a spouse, sibling, children or friend. My
grand daughters are still missing their nana or great grandmother who died over
five years ago. We all affect others that we interact with in our families and
communities. Even the grouches or hermits will be missed. Perhaps because they
never let others get close enough to build a relationship. That’s one of the
few things we can take with us when our time comes. How many of us make that a
priority as we go through our day? I dare say our grocery list or to do
agenda gets more attention than taking time to reach out to others.
A few more kind words of appreciation could certainly improve our
world. This same friend of mine is able to look at anyone and find a compliment
for that person. I hear her tell others, You have beautiful eye lashes or great hair or
that’s a lovely color on you it makes your eyes so blue, etc. So here’s a challenge for today and everyday. Go about making a difference in individuals’
lives that you come in contact with, even those closest to you. Have you
complimented your spouse or dear friend lately for little services or
courtesies he or she gives to you? Others are in need of some appreciation or
personal attention today. Take the risk, reach out and you’ll make a difference
and not be forgotten. NEXT TIME: Serendipity
I attended a loving memorial service for a friend's father
which got me to thinking more about life and families.
How transient we all are and how quickly we can vanish
moved to another sphere separated by invisible barriers.
What comfort it gives to me to know through my religious
beliefs that our spirit continues on while the body rests
in the grave or in this case cremated into ashes to be
sprinkled near his family's graves in New York.
He was 93 years old and had been married 68 years
with a large group of posterity who came to honor him
with their sweet songs, tears and memories of grandpa, dad
and a man of humor, integrity and honor. Richard Markham
Whatever stage of life you are in now, you
probably long for a few quiet moments to relax and experience solitude. If your
life is too busy, maybe it’s time to slow down and consider meditation. It’s a
way to empty or clear your mind of thoughts so you can concentrate on just one
thing deeply and carefully. If you’re on the treadmill of life rushing onward
toward success and prestige, there’s little time to analyze where or what you
are becoming. There are many ways to mediate.
Just taking time to examine your feelings and
current situation in a diary can lower your blood pressure and stress. I find
writing in my journal helps me clear my thoughts and reflect on my priorities
and values. Quiet times need to be planned. Nature always relaxes me. Sunsets
are a perfect time to go inward and examine your life. Daily prayer can be a
healing practice that good for body and soul. Expressing your gratitude for
blessings received, prayers answered or seeking to develop faith in a higher
power is never wasted time.
Learning how to do yoga or tai chi can assist
you in deep breathing and clearing out your mind and spirit in order to live
more peacefully. It’s so important in the modern world of 24/7 newscasts that
can fill your days to take timeout.
Try listening to New Age or peaceful instrumental music instead of insipid TV
programs and blaring commercials that demand too much of your attention.
Take a walk on a labyrinth. It’s
sometimes called a walking meditation. There’s probably one in your community
nearby. It’s a pattern of rocks that forms a circle for walking, a place of
reflection and contemplation. When you begin the pattern, try to slow down your
mind, clear out the strident inner voices so you can get in touch with your
inner self. It can be a path of prayer and wisdom. As you walk, the pattern
will take you to the center of the circle then back out to where you began. If
you use this activity to center yourself, you will feel refreshed and renewed
from taking this time to meditate.
We have a lovely labyrinth in Kayenta called
Desert Rose: a place of rest and renewal.It was a favorite place for my visiting teenage grand daughters. We
discussed how the path was similar to life. NEXT TIME: Making a Difference