Is
it possible to be alone, but not lonely? When your empty nest years arrive, you
could enjoy the experience of solitude and lack of responsibilities.
Unfortunately, many of us spend our golden years feeling lonely and longing for
other times when we felt more needed either as a parent, spouse or in a meaningful
demanding job. Maybe it’s time to look around for opportunities to serve
others, if you feel this way. 
No man is an island. Unless you live in a cave, you are surrounded by
occasions where with a little effort you could make a difference in someone’s
life. It may be necessary to pull yourself out of your comfort or complaining
zone. Just a perusal of the local newspaper headlines could open your eyes to
the need for a listening ear at a family shelter, community hospital or
assisted care center. Volunteering in a neighborhood school classroom or public
library to tutor one on one with a disadvantaged student could help them
improve their reading and conversation skills. There is no lack of
opportunities. By opening your eyes and heart to serving someone else, your own
life will increase in richness and purpose. Many church groups have lists of
volunteer service needed. Sign up for something that interests you.
Making new friends does require courage and
effort. It’s easier to stay home and be unhappy and lonely, but what a waste of
time. Reach out, develop new interests or hobbies. Share a talent you have with
family or friends. Learn something new, read books, join a club or service
organization. Take a walk, breath deeply. Don’t give up on life, it’s still
worth living no matter your age or health challenges.
In your journal, make a list of skills or
hobbies you have developed over the years or new ones that you’d like to
develop. Do you have a bucket list? It’s not too late to develop one. Take a
community education class and you’ll meet others with like interests. While
you’re at, contact a lonely neighbor and involve them in a new adventure with
you. Check out your immediate or extended family members. Is there someone that
could use a little extra attention, a visit, phone call or letter to cheer them
on in life? In no time at all, you’ll find that you aren’t lonely or alone.
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