Monday, January 28, 2013

Article #231 Making a Difference


My friend who is the same age as me is worried that…after I’m gone, no one will remember me. It’s really quite a concern to her, which is amazing because she is so good at making friends and a difference in the lives of everyone she meets. Just waiting in line to checkout is an opportunity for this friend to get acquainted and take an interest in individuals near her by starting up a conversation. 

She is a shining example to me of a loving person who does make a difference even in strangers’ lives that she touches. Whether it is a brief but sincere compliment given unexpectedly or a question, she is always on the outlook for opportunities to build another’s self esteem and worth. Will she be missed when she’s gone? Definitely! She’s a snowbird and I always miss her companionship during the summer months. (Photos on right- my grandmother Alda Johnson who died in 1967 and her sister my great aunt Dora-below who died in the 1951. They both were important influences in my childhood and are not forgotten.)

Even those who aren’t outgoing and influential in others lives will be missed by those who knew them: a spouse, sibling, children or friend. My grand daughters are still missing their nana or great grandmother who died over five years ago. We all affect others that we interact with in our families and communities. Even the grouches or hermits will be missed. Perhaps because they never let others get close enough to build a relationship. That’s one of the few things we can take with us when our time comes. How many of us make that a priority as we go through our day? I dare say our grocery list or to do agenda gets more attention than taking time to reach out to others. 

A few more kind words of appreciation could certainly improve our world. This same friend of mine is able to look at anyone and find a compliment for that person. I hear her tell others, You have beautiful eye lashes or great hair or that’s a lovely color on you it makes your eyes so blue, etc. So here’s a challenge for today and everyday. Go about making a difference in individuals’ lives that you come in contact with, even those closest to you. Have you complimented your spouse or dear friend lately for little services or courtesies he or she gives to you? Others are in need of some appreciation or personal attention today. Take the risk, reach out and you’ll make a difference and not be forgotten. NEXT TIME: Serendipity