Thursday, September 18, 2008

Can of Worms

Well, found out there some difference in opinions among my blogging friends after my last post about working women vs. stay at home mothers. (Hopefully some understanding and compassion for each other can be felt. It's not helpful to try to judge one another.) Here's the latest from Sarah Palin...Palin also took questions about her family and women's rights during the hourlong forum. Asked at one point how she would respond to people who say she can't be both a mother of five and vice president, she said, "Well, let's prove them wrong.

Well, I've been there done that-worked full time and tried to raise a family. Found out this about jobs, no matter how great the job was or how much of a contribution I thought I made as a teacher, librarian or community school coordinator, once the job was over--it was over. Returning years later to a job location, I could barely see the results of my work and efforts (including overtime not paid for). No one working then remembered me. At that point, I realized that a job is just that, a job. You can be fired, quit or just leave and it doesn't matter that much to anyone years later. 

But as a mother, you have job security and responsibility to train, nurture and guide your offspring. You can't be fired, quit or retire, and you won't be forgotten or replaced too often. Once a mother, you are always eternally a mother. When during wartime, young soldiers were wounded and dying in combat, they didn't call out for their superior officers for comfort but for their mothers. Same with 9/11, the last phone calls made were to family members-mothers, fathers, siblings or spouses. That to me shows the importance and eternal nature of family ties. Shouldn't we (and our husbands) give our first priority-best time and efforts to our family? Can you do that if you work full time?