You hear so many women talk about finding their SOUL MATE. I believe it's a fantasy, like finding your PRINCE CHARMING and living "happily ever after." Rarely do you stumble unto such a relationship, but I do believe it's possible to become soul mates in your relationship-given time and focusing your energies on trying to be an understanding and unconditional lover to your spouse or chosen companion.
I think it takes TIME and EFFORT, and develops slowly from withstanding TRIALS TOGETHER, learning how to give and take SUPPORT through illnesses, family problems, etc. Oprah.com says a soul mate is where you... inspire and support each other to grow into your best possible selves...connecting on a soul to soul level. Unfortunately most men aren't wired or taught how to connect that way...that's why it's so important to have a special female friend or two where you can make that needed soul to soul connection while you are working on developing that closeness in your marriage relationship.
As John Gray says in Women are from Venus and Men are from Mars. We are each different and see the world differently. Men don't need to talk, but women do to understand themselves. Men want to solve problems not talk about them. Women want a caring listening spouse. What are your observations?