Joan Cordon of St. George
shares a short story about how her family’s old world traditions have changed
or evolved from living in America. Grandfather’s
Will: My
German born grandfather settled in Wisconsin and began a dairy farm where my
mother and her brother were raised.
My father was a hired man on their farm for several years. When anyone asked to take my mother out
on a date my grandfather only allowed her to go if her brother accompanied
them. My grandfather made an
exception for the hired man who would eventually become my father. 
They
married and moved to Illinois where my father could find work at U.S. Steel
Company. When my grandfather died
in 1952, he left the entire farm to my mother’s brother as was the custom in
old world German families. Mother
never knew of her father’s will because her brother went to the bank and
mortgaged the farm enough so that he could send his sister half of the value of
the farm. It was many years later
that my mother learned of her brother’s generosity. It may have been German tradition to leave all to the eldest
son, but it was the eldest son’s love of his sister that changed tradition.
I (Lin)
remember growing up in Southern California in the 1950’s; my best friend Mary
Anne Schmitt’s father was from Germany and her mother was from Italy. Having
different backgrounds religiously and culturally, this couple were quite
successful at blending their cultures into a truly American lifestyle. The dad
agreed to have the children raised in the Catholic faith while the mom learned
to cook German dishes specializing in a lovely pork roast with sauerkraut as
well as her traditional Italian spaghetti and pasta. I loved to eat at their
house. Each spouse brought their specialties and unique traditions to blend into
a totally new American
household. Talented as a musician,
the dad taught piano lessons and was in a private band that played at dances to
bring in extra money while the mom stayed at home 24/7 dedicated to rearing
their three children. Two sons and a daughter attended Catholic schools,
college, married and raised blended families of their own with spouses of
immigrants from other ethnic cultures.
They lived the American dream. Tell us about your family briefly. I’ll help you edit. NEXT TIME: The American Dream.