I have a hard time with
self-help books or classes that want you to make affirmations or state a goal
you wish to achieve as already happening. Example: I'm a success at losing weight. Repeating this positive phrase is suppose to help you
believe that you can accomplish it. What I find lacking in affirmations is
honesty or a plan. I can’t affirm that I’m thinner, unless I am. Affirmations
only add to the confusing self-talk (both positive and negative) that can go on
inside your head or mind. We are all good at self-criticizing. Maybe it's time
to substitute true positive compliments
to yourself instead of fake positive statements. (Although, if affirmations work for you, don’t
let me stop you.)
I hope you get the idea. We each need to be our own best
CHEERLEADER. Although it helps to have friends, family or spouse who do that
also. The only person we can control is OURSELVES!!! Focus on eliminating
affirmation-type and negative self-talk by adding a compliment or two to
restore HOPE to your life. What are some COMPLIMENTS you need to give yourself?
Write them in your journal now. NEXT TIME-Personal Battles.
Here’s
some examples of self-talk from my life:
1.
BOOKS: I could say as an affirmation: I am successful at selling my
books or Negative self talk: well, you've certainly
failed at trying to sell your own self published books or I could compliment my efforts: I have to say
you have really tried to sell your books and YOU HAVE WRITTEN FOUR OF THEM!
plus helped other friends to self publish their own. Compliments or positive self talk build and encourage
you rather than tear you down, while affirmation can lead to more
disappointments.
2.
RELATIONSHIPS: Affirmation: I will motivate my extended family to
gather for the holidays or Negative self talk: Well
for all your efforts, the rewards have been few in trying to get your whole
family together for a reunion versus a compliment
for my efforts: You had a wonderful time with those family members who were
able to come and celebrate the new baby's blessing. Keep trying.
3.
SELF IMAGE and WEIGHT LOSS: Affirmation: I feel good with all the weight
I’m losing or Negative self talk: You've gained back most of the
weight you lost in the past few years and struggle with your eating habits versus complimenting my efforts: You are
trying again to loose weight and exercise more––good for you.
I hope you get the idea. We each need to be our own best
CHEERLEADER. Although it helps to have friends, family or spouse who do that
also. The only person we can control is OURSELVES!!! Focus on eliminating
affirmation-type and negative self-talk by adding a compliment or two to
restore HOPE to your life. What are some COMPLIMENTS you need to give yourself?
Write them in your journal now. NEXT TIME-Personal Battles.