Start writing about
something that interests you about your life. Challenge yourself to recall your
most memorial experience with a parent or grandparent. What made it special?
Perhaps it was a simple picnic in the mountains or the first time you went
fishing. Events that were special because of the relationships you had with
those involved. Writing down these early memories will stir up other
remembrances from the past. Old photos or scrapbooks can be good memory joggers
or old letters or postcards. Best of all is talking face to face with parents
or grandparents if they are still around and asking questions. Soon you will be
sharing your family’s past.
Christine Provstgaard of
St. George tells us how finding some old family letters led her to discoveries about
her grandparents. In my brother's attic, a box was found containing old
letters our mother had saved. These were letters from my grandfather to my
grandmother written in 1931. When my grandfather was away on business
trips he would travel by train and wrote letters home every day. On March
23, 1931 he was on the Portland Rose going to Seattle, Washington for a banking
convention. The train was called "a triumph in train comfort." A
small pamphlet reveals some of the train's amenities: Observation-Club Car:
barber, valet, maid service, writing desks, periodicals, newspapers, radio,
market reports, lounges and sun rooms, hair cuts for men, bobs for women 50¢,
shave 25¢, hair singe 25¢, and facial massage $1.00. Baths, manicures and hair
dressing were arranged by maid service. Valet from 6:30 a.m. to midnight
provided a clothes-pressing service.
My mother was from the
second family. Grandpa's first wife had died in childbirth, leaving him with
four children. He was 50 when he met my grandmother who was 39 and considered a
"spinster" in those days. He loved and adored my grandmother and his
children. They had my mother, Aunt Junece and they adopted a cousin’s child-
June. When I was 10 my grandfather was 90 yrs old. Grandmother had passed
away from Parkinson’s disease.
Finding these letters is a wonderful gift
to me from my mother. I feel joy that I can read them as an adult and feel her
close to me. It gives me an opportunity to know who my grandparents were, what
they thought about, what was important to them and how they struggled with the
challenges they faced. NEXT TIME: Family As Priority.