Every once in a while it becomes necessaryto take a stand with others or even ourself
when we notice something is not right.
Misunderstandings continued over time,
false judgements made need correcting.
Considering if it's our stewardship comes
first and foremost, we are not to judge
others even ourselves unrighteously.
But judge or consider we must at times.
first and foremost, we are not to judge
others even ourselves unrighteously.
But judge or consider we must at times.
Otherwise, our own misbehavior would
not be changed. There comes a time of
examining, repenting and then changing.
Being lovingly assertive with ourselves,
not be changed. There comes a time of
examining, repenting and then changing.
Being lovingly assertive with ourselves,
and taking a stand with others who may
use us as a "doormat" or misjudge others.
Then we must find our voice, and politely
not rudely declare what we feel to be true.
use us as a "doormat" or misjudge others.
Then we must find our voice, and politely
not rudely declare what we feel to be true.
I think the key word here is politely. Sadly, I'm not seeing a lot of that in the news lately and that's sad.
ReplyDeleteVery true ...politeness most of the time wins any given tough situations.... one of our relative works for us but was very negligent in his duties,we kept shut for many years until recently we called him and spoke to him about our concerns and it surely gave us good results...the key to success was politeness.Thanks for your guidelines.
ReplyDeleteI agree that words are all to often used as weapons that injure and maim both individuals and relationships. When we make the effort to use our vocabulary thoughtfully, kindly and with concern for another's feelings we will realize a much more desirabe outcome.
ReplyDeleteThis makes me wonder what's happening in your life. I can't wait to see you ... a week! One more week and I can sit with a cup of tea, looking at the ocean, and listening to you tell me all about the experiences you've had and the thoughts that they've lead to. sigh... one week....
By the way....this is Caryn. I'm using Chandi's computer...
ReplyDeleteIn case any one is interested besides Caryn-I sent off my letter to my doctor about being called "dear" by two different assistants in his office. What did it was when I called in to pay off a bill and the receptionist called me "dear" two times. I decided that's enough of that...old people of the world unite=let's start calling another one under 25 "a child." LOL!
ReplyDeleteI have shocked a few people over the years when I politely said, finally, "you know, I don't agree with you." And I have had a few people tell me the same thimg. It really clears the air, and can lead to a discussion or just an agreement to disagree.
ReplyDeleteI have always maintained that 50% of whatever you say is interpreted by HOW you say it. I was also wondering what brought this on. Glad you told us.
ReplyDeletePS The 30 year old physical therapist calls me 'sweetheart'!!
Too often, over my lifetime, I have kept quiet about things that I didn't agree with because I didn't want to make any waves.
ReplyDeleteBut I'm learning to speak up (as kindly as I know how) when I am not in agreement with something. If something is amiss, I don't want to walk in agreement with it by my silence.
It is interesting that when you do say something, people are often taken aback. They just assume you agree with them when they're spouting off about something or someone.
When we speak, it opens the way for discussion and clearing the air, which closes the door on misinterpretation and misunderstanding.
Thanks Lin for giving us more to think about!
Kindness at the heart of all gestures is key. Thanks for this, Lin.
ReplyDeleteI always told the parents that I worked for that they should always be well armed with information and be pleasant..Best way to get things done....
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