Article # 181 Kindness and Unconditional Acceptance

Could it be that kindness and unconditional acceptance need to begin with our self? If we treat others as we’d like to be treated and not dependent on their behavior, all our relationships could be improved. When was the last time you gave yourself a compliment? i.e. That was a good job or congrats for a great effort. Instead we most likely tell ourselves…You could have done better or You’ll never improve in… If we treated our friends/family like we treat our self, we’d probably have few positive relationships.

How about increasing kindness and acceptance with all you interact with including yourself? A little compliment can go a long way in encouraging others to find fulfillment in their lives, while a criticism can stop or derail others. Here’s an interesting experience, the next time you hear a negative voice inside your head/mind saying something-write it down. Then counter that criticism with two positive things about whatever or whomever you are being critical about. Example: You’ll never get that right. Two positives: Well as long as I keep on trying I may succeed or I haven’t failed if I keep trying. Try to compliment instead of criticize everyone, including yourself.

Does all this sounds like optimism? It is a happier way of living and interacting. Always looking for the positive makes for a less stressful life. The challenge comes in returning misunderstandings with kindness and forgiveness. Not taking things personally, but always seeking to make each experience a lesson can change problems into learning experiences. Accepting others and yourself unconditionally is easier said than done. It takes a lot of self-discipline to look for the positive in life and ignore the negative. Think of all the relationships that could be improved with a little more kindness.

Is there a couple you know that are an example of being kind and thoughtful of each other, overlooking faults and irritations, seeking for the good of their relationship rather than focused on the differences that are always there? Following their example in your life could heal a lot of hurt. Just one value, kindness. could change the world and the way families interact as well as communities and nations. Try being a little kinder in all your interactions today and in your own self-talk. It will make a difference in how you perceive life and the influence you can have on others.