There's a column in the local Deseret News written by Jerry Johnston that usually has some interesting comments. From last weekend's column entitled Ideally speaking, here's some items that gave me food for thought:
1. Any relationship is under the control of the person who cares the least. I always forget that and feel that IF I expend enough effort I can build communication with those family members who are estranged BUT guess what. It doesn't work. They have to want to improve the relationship also and some don't.
2. Only bad things happen quickly. Such as accidents or illnesses. Good things take time, effort and prayer which tests our patience.
3. EXPERIENCE offers the best ADVICE. Regardless of how much we want our children to follow our advice-they won't, but will have to learn for themselves the hard way.
4. We are afraid of the wrong things. The voices inside our head are more to be feared than the imaginary rejections and snubs we create from others.
5. Received wisdom never stays with us. Wisdom gained from experience never goes away. Relates to #3.
6. No body likes to be told what to do. Mental health requires freedom of choice. That becomes the battleground when raising teens or children of any age. Teaching, molding, influencing them is not easy. I'm so happy I'm not a 24/7 mother anymore. But the empty nest is lonely sometimes. Also found out the challenges of being a grandmother and mother-in-law. It's a learning experience. Better to hold your tongue most of the time and NOT give any advice unless asked. Lol!